New parents and sleep deprivation: How to deal with a lack of sleep with a newborn

Learn about the different stages of sleep deprivation for new parents, how long it lasts, and how to get through it.

Key Takeaways

  • New parents should expect to sleep between 5 and 6 hours per night.
  • Each new parent loses an average of 109 minutes of sleep for the first year.
  • With a good bedtime routine and sleep hygeine you can improve how much sleep you get as parents.

How much sleep do new parents get?

Becoming a parent for the first time is exciting, but it can also be very tiring! This is especially the case during those precious early days and weeks with a newborn. On average, a new parent typically averages around 4 to 5 hours of sleep within 24 hours; however, this can vary greatly from one individual to the next.

Factors that affect how much sleep new parents get could include the age of their baby, lifestyle habits such as caffeine consumption, or whether they are breastfeeding or bottle-feeding.

As life goes back to normal, most parents will find that their sleep balances out over time; however, some may need to focus on developing good relaxation and bedtime habits in order to get the quality (and quantity) of sleep they crave.

New mom sleeping in her bed

How long does new parent sleep deprivation last?

New parent sleep deprivation is a natural—but admittedly difficult—part of parenthood. While it's useful to remember that it is only temporary, determining just how long it actually lasts can be harder to discern.

Depending on each individual situation and the age of the child, parents of babies may experience several months to several years of interrupted sleep. But with dedication, patience and a little luck, you can take measures to reduce the severity and duration of sleep deprivation.

Implementing strategies such as well-timed naps, recognising your own limits and learning relaxation techniques are all effective ways of managing new parent sleep deprivation.

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What are the symptoms of sleep deprivation?

Sleep deprivation can cause physical, mental, and emotional symptoms in those suffering from it. Physically, the individual may feel fatigued, experience headaches, stomach issues, and have difficulty concentrating.

Emotionally, the individual may feel overwhelmed and overwhelmed which can lead to irritability and mood swings. In addition to being more prone to making mistakes due to lack of focus, new parents dealing with severe sleep deprivation may also suffer from depression or anxiety as time passes.

Fortunately there are options for coping such as support groups or therapy for both parents as well as tips for managing fatigue during the day provided by professionals like doctors or lactation consultants.

How do new mothers deal with being sleep deprived?

One such strategy is taking naps when they can throughout the day. It might be tempting to stay up late getting things done, but this often leads to exhaustion that can impact mental clarity or emotions.

A second suggestion is allowing someone else to share parenting duties when possible in order to get some extra time for rest. Finally, many new mothers find creative solutions like staying present in each moment or doing light exercises that help restore energy for when their little one needs them most.

How do new fathers deal with not getting sufficient sleep?

New fathers should start by scheduling regular times for rest, even if this means taking an afternoon nap. Additionally, creating a dedicated place in the home specifically for sleep – whether it’s a bedroom or a set corner of the living room – can help encourage better rest.

As tempting as it may be to check emails or messages during late nights, once in bed try and focus on relaxation instead. By implementing some intentional sleeping moments throughout their days, new fathers will reap the benefits of having enough energy to care for their families and still take part in their daily lives.

New dad waking up in bed

How to get through sleep deprivation with a newborn

The best way to get through those sleepless nights is to establish a good night routine, and stick to it as much as possible. This can include accommodations such as swaddling and having a designated sleep space.

It's also essential to give yourself time during the day to relax too; even small moments of calm can make a big difference in your day. Additionally, ensure that you have plenty of assistance and support around you so that you don't feel like you have to do it all on your own. With the right strategies in place, you’ll soon find that getting through sleep deprivation with your little one isn't so difficult after all!

Is postpartum depression linked to sleep deprivation?

Studies have shown that, while there aren't any definitive results, postpartum depression appears to be linked to sleep deprivation. Given the already significant lack of rest experienced by women during pregnancy and after birth, this only further stresses the need for new mothers to get adequate sleep when possible.

It's important for medical professionals to recognise the connection between sleep deprivation and PPD in order to make sure that they are taking the necessary steps to help their patients protect their mental health during such a crucial time in their lives.

Association between sleep quality and postpartum depression

What can I do in the middle of the night so that my baby sleeps?

The key is to create a quiet and comfortable atmosphere for them; that means dimming lights, eliminating noisy distractions and keeping the temperature cool. Rocking your baby or playing some calm background music can help if they’re struggling to settle down.

If you find that nothing seems to work, you might want to try giving them a warm bath — it helps some babies relax and unwind, making it easier for them to fall asleep. Ultimately, 5-15 minutes of genuine nurturing will go a long way in getting your baby back into dreamland before you know it!

Mom sleeping in bed with baby on her chest

My baby cries all night. Is it colic?

Figuring out why your baby is crying all night may be puzzling and very difficult, especially when fatigue starts to set in. If you suspect that your baby might be suffering from colic, the best way to assess if this is truly the cause is to look for the signs: excessive crying for at least three days a week for at least three hours on each of those days during a period of three weeks or longer.

It’s also important to take into consideration your baby’s health history, diet, and any post delivery medications given to ensure that there isn’t another underlying issue. Even if it turns out that colic isn’t the cause of all that fussing, comfort measures and support can still help soothe your little one during these sleepless nights.

Also Read: How to soothe a baby with colic

How can I practice good sleep hygiene?

You can practice good sleep hygiene by making sure your bedroom is free from distractions and comfortable with a temperature that isn’t too hot nor too cold. Avoiding screens thirty minutes before bedtime allows your body to naturally relax and drift off into slumber.

Additionally, ensuring that you are getting enough exercise throughout the day can help promote healthier sleeping habits while leaving caffeine consumption and napping until later in the day also aids in sounder sleep all night long.

Is it safe if my baby sleeps on top of me in the same bed?

A newborn baby sleeping on top of you can be a beautiful experience, but it's important to take safety precautions in order to protect both you and your little one from sleep related infant deaths. When considering if your baby should fall asleep on you, discuss the risks with your healthcare provider and weigh them carefully against the possible rewards.

To prevent infant suffocation, you should make sure that there are no blankets or pillows surrounding either of you while the baby is on top of you. It is also best to avoid offering this form of comfort while sleeping in an armchair or a couch due to the possibility of falling asleep in an awkward position.

If done correctly, this intimate activity has been proven to create great bonding experiences for both parents and babies alike!

Also Read: Benefits of Co-Sleeping and how to do it safely
Baby sleeping on moms chest in bed

What are the negative health effects of being sleep deprived?

Being sleep deprived can be a major issue, with physical and mental health effects like fatigue or lack of energy, trouble concentrating or paying attention, decreased immune system strength, increased risk for obesity or diabetes, mood swings and depression. Not getting enough sleep for a prolonged period of time can cause long-term problems with memory, creativity, and artistic judgement.

Additionally, it takes much more effort to recall information without enough restful sleep to help consolidate the memories. If you find yourself struggling to stay awake during the day, it could be a sign that you are not getting enough sleep in the night and need to adjust your habits accordingly. It is important take care of your body by ensuring that you are effectively resting at night even with a new baby. If things are really bad, reach out to family members and friends who can watch your baby during the day so you can some some more sleep.

How can I develop healthy sleep habits for my baby?

Start by getting familiarised with your baby’s daily patterns and look out for signs that they may need some rest soon. You'll also want to establish a comfortable sleeping environment. Keeping your baby's sleeping space away from bright lights or loud noises during the early hours of the night can be helpful.

For young babies, daytime naps should be encouraged but try not to let these interfere with their nighttime sleep. Lastly, it is important to stick with what worked yesterday and avoid changing things up too much - a consistent bedtime routine is key in helping your little one develop those all-important healthy sleeping habits.

What age can I start sleep training my baby?

It’s important to know that when it comes to training your baby to fall asleep, there is no “one size fits all” answer. What works for one baby won't necessarily work for another so the best approach is to do your research and understand the different approaches available.

Generally speaking though, most paediatricians recommend that you wait until your little one is at least 4 months old before starting sleep training. This allows them to get a little older and more able to cope with the process, as well as giving them the best chance of getting good restful sleep. Even if your baby is past four months, if they are showing signs of being overtired or struggling with night waking, it might be worth contacting their paediatrician who can advise you on whether they think they would benefit from sleep training at this stage.

Read Also: How to sleep train your baby

Should me and my partner sleep in different rooms if one is working the next day?

Having one parent working and the other parenting full-time does not necessarily mean that me and my partner should consider separate bedrooms. Co-sleeping arrangements can provide comfort to both baby and parents, while also allowing for more flexibility.

If electing to have one adult remain in the shared bedroom but needing more restful sleep, white noise machines or creating an area of darkness and silence can be helpful. Ultimately, creating a plan together that takes into account sleep deficits is vital for helping each parent cope with stress in the relationship.

Our final thoughts when you will get a good night's sleep again

Nothing quite prepares you for sleep deprivation as a new parent. While snuggling with your newborn, rocking them to sleep, and spending all night worrying whether they are warm enough may be cherished moments, these moments come at the cost of sleep satisfaction.

Nevertheless, the joy of being a parent often outweighs sleep deprivation. Eventually, your little one will start to sleep through the night more often, before eventually settling into an established sleep routine. Suddenly you'll get that good night's sleep - and all will be right with the world again!

New mom finally getting sleep in bed
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